The way a marriage ends is as important as the way it begins. Especially if you have children. Because I wanted my son to have the best possible experience of his nuclear family changing to a constellation, I declared my divorce my spiritual practice. And though this often felt like walking through fire, and though it required some of the most agonizing personal work I have ever done, I made my divorce worth it. Meaning: I was able to source profound healing, hope and wholeness from my most broken places. I was able to eventually find unconditional acceptance and love for my co-parent—and for myself. I was able to make co-parenting a collaborative and positive experience. You can, too. I will share the 10 most important choices I think you can make when going through divorce to keep you oriented toward personal integrity, love and compassion for everyone in your family, so you can heal well together.
Sage Cohen is a poet, author, life coach and marketing consultant. Her books include Writing the Life Poetic and The Productive Writer, both from Writer’s Digest Books, and the poetry collection Like the Heart, the World from Queen of Wands press. Her poetry collection How to Leave Your Husband is forthcoming. Since 1997, Sage has run the marketing communications firm Sage Communications. She lives with a muse menagerie of one fiver year old, one dog and four cats.